Signs of pride and humility

May 2, 2007
by Dave

Pride is such an insidious sin that those who suffer from it usually don’t know it. And that sucks because everyone has some problem with pride, aligning himself with the devil in his sin. For me, every day feels like a heated battle against a soundless, invisible enemy.

Pride is one of the chief sins which God condemns in the book of Zephaniah. It’s mentioned explicitly a couple of times (2:10, 3:11), and it seems to be the common thread underlying the sins of Israel and her neighbors. So I thought I’d go through the book and pick out symptoms of pride — all the better to diagnose it. In addition, I’ll look at symptoms of humility as well. (It would probably be a good idea to ask why these reflect pride and humility, but I don’t want to spend all day writing this.)

Signs of pride:

  • Dividing your loyalties between God and other things which act as idols (1:4-6).
  • Failing to seek the Lord (1:6) through His Word, prayer, and the counsel of other believers.
  • Trying to “fit in” with the unbelieving world (1:8).
  • Complacency (1:12).
  • Believing God will not act and trusting in our own plans (1:12, James 4:13-17).
  • Trusting in our money (1:18).
  • Taunting and boasting against other Christians (2:8, 10) — taking delight in their failures and criticizing them to make ourselves look better.
  • Living securely with a false sense of superiority (2:15).
  • Rebelling against authority (3:1).
  • Oppressing others (3:1) by misusing our power or abilities to hurt or damage them.
  • Refusing to accept correction (3:2).
  • Failing to trust in the Lord (3:2).
  • Failing to draw near to God (3:2) by holding Him at arms’ length.
  • Being fickle and treacherous (3:4) by failing to live up to what we promise or going back on our word.
  • Profaning what is holy (3:4) by treating the things of God casually — the way the world treats them.
  • Being eager to do corrupt deeds (3:7) — to engage in sins of the flesh.

Signs of humility:

  • Seeking the Lord (2:3) — turning to the Bible, calling on God in prayer, seeking the wisdom of other believers.
  • Doing what is just and seeking righteousness (2:3).
  • Naturally, seeking humility (2:3).
  • Fearing the Lord and thus submitting to His discipline (3:7).
  • Calling on the name of the Lord for help and refuge (3:9, 12).
  • Serving the Lord in one accord with other believers (3:9).
  • Bringing offerings of our resources and also ourselves to the Lord (3:10).
  • Telling the truth at all times (3:13).
  • Being unafraid of what other people will do to us because we trust that God will save us (3:13, 15-17).
  • Loudly rejoicing in the Lord’s salvation (3:14-15).
  • Doing good works with strength (3:16, Galatians 6:9).

A common theme I’m seeing is that pride is a result of failing to fear the Lord, while those who are humble fear the Lord and no one else.

10 Responses leave one →
  1. August 16, 2008
    Patrick permalink

    Is kneeling a sign of humility for asking forgiveness to a person you hurt?

  2. August 16, 2008

    Patrick, I think that would depend on the culture. Here in America, I don’t think it would be a good idea in most cases…it would either seem weird or sanctimonious (at least to me). Probably the best way to express humility in asking forgiveness is to make it clear that you did sin against the other person and against God, you regret it deeply, and that you really want his forgiveness in order that you may be reconciled with him.

    Thanks for asking!

  3. October 22, 2008

    Thanks, Dave, for that study of Zephaniah, an often overlooked Minor Prophet. Your outline has given me a feramework on which to hang a further study of that book.
    May God bless you and use you mightily for His glory.
    A brother in Christ,
    Mal Bicker

  4. December 7, 2008
    kurt permalink

    My pride study and as well as my desire to be humble has led me here. I constantly want to teach people or let people know something I just learned even before I have full knowledge. At first it may seem like a caring attitude. But I have come to believe its my pride wanting me to say “look everyone look what I know” It seems selfish at first to keep knowledge from someone but unless The Spirit has turned that knowledge to wisdom, I have no business boasting of that which I know. ‘even a fool seems perceptive when he holds his tongue’ A WISE MAN LISTENS, A FOOL IS CAUGHT IN HIS FOLLY. BLESSINGS TO ALL, THANK YOU

  5. November 2, 2009
    Princess Michiru permalink

    I have come back to the Lord, after 4 years of stumbling in the wilderness.
    I was just curious about a question regarding pride.

    Is it a sign of pride to call yourself by the title of ‘Princess’ ?

    I only did it to give my self-confidence a boost, after having it shot to pieces by a Bible-based cult.

    What areyour thoughts on this, Dave?

    Kind Regards,
    Princess Michiru

  6. November 6, 2009

    Hi Michiru, I’m sorry to hear about your experiences with this cult. Believe me, if they were really Bible-based, it wouldn’t have been a wilderness you were stumbling in (Psalm 1).

    A blog isn’t really the best place to work through these things, but I’d point you to a few passages in God’s Word to think through: Psalm 118:5–9; Jeremiah 17:5–8; 2 Corinthians 12:9. As you’re reading them, ask who deserves our confidence—God, or people (including yourself)? Whose opinion of you really matters—God’s opinion, or other people’s? Should your goal be to build confidence in God, or confidence in yourself?

    I hope this helps you. I’m praying that the Lord would encourage you and restore your trust in him!

    • November 20, 2009
      Princess Michiru permalink

      Thank you very much, Dave.

      I have joined a church that accepts me, and that is really helping me to sort myself out.

      The LORD reigns over this new Church, and it is like the balm of Gilead in a dry desert.

  7. January 29, 2010
    Tina permalink

    Hey !
    So pride, my Pastor says its like bad breath; everyone knows you have it except you. I knwo I can be prideful and unreceptive at times and I constantlt pray that I dont get spiritually prideful. I talk to God everyday and I fast ona regular basis. I have a good solid relationship with God.

    My father on the otther hand is in rehab center in another state for cocaine. Im not talking to him on a regular basis because he lies.

    Well long story short I was raped at gunpoint a little over a year ago and Im still healing from it. My mom was going out of town and I just cried before she left because I didnt want to be alone, I get scared sometimes, not all the time but once in awhile( what happened to me was very random). It was in the newspaper google: rape deacon chesterfield.

    Anways soem how my freak out got to my father and he just started texting me out of the blue “to talk”. I didnt want to talk to him but he just kept texting in calling. finally he sent a little prayer , like the ones they give you in rehab to say . It made me so made. I dint want to hear any of his crap or have some crack head dead beat father of mine tell me I shoudl pray like Im not doing that already. He recently got saved( legitmately) and it is wise advice to tell some one to pray when they have an issue. generic but sound.

    However when my father tells me or ask me ..”did you pray about it ” “well pray about it ” or sends me a prayer through text message .. it makes my blood boil. I get so angry I cry.

    Am I being prideful about accepting advice from him.

    Id ask my Pastor but Ihave already bomboarded him with a long email of questions on a different subject.

  8. February 1, 2010

    Hi Tina, thanks for sharing your story. I’m sorry to hear it…what happened to you is awful. I found myself praising God to see you forgive the man who raped you.

    Since I don’t know you and I don’t know much of your life story, I really can’t say much. That is something that your pastor is better equipped to do. But it is clear that you are angry at your father. You may not be at the point where you can trust him (and he simply may not be trustworthy), but it is important to show mercy toward him. God has shown mercy to you and me even though we haven’t done a single thing to deserve it. (Matthew 18:21–35)

    I’m praying as I type this that God will help you see more clearly how merciful he has been to you in sending Jesus Christ. He endured the most shameful, humiliating treatment anyone has ever experienced, and he was betrayed, rejected, and abandoned by all of his friends. He did it for you. He knows what you’ve gone through. May the Holy Spirit strengthen you to love your father the way God has loved you.

  9. February 5, 2010
    Tina permalink

    I just read your post and thanks for your reply… The next day I actually attempted to talk to my father civilly and it diditn go horrible wrong and , I felt like my heart was more open to him. I have been praying for that my heart woudl be open to my father again ( that took me a couple of days to get to that point though.). So thanks for your sincere prayer bro, cause I believe God answered it :-) Thank God for intercessory prayer!!!

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